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A. G. Grimmer, “The Nine-Part Model: A Tool for Sharing Dyadic Formulations,” Bristol CBT, 2013, bristolcbt.co.uk/publications/the-nine-part-model-dyadic-formulation.

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E. A. Robinson, and M. G. Price, “Pleasurable Behavior in Marital Interaction: An Observational Study,” Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology 48, № 1 (1980): 117–118, doi.org/10.1037/0022-006X.48.1.117.

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B. C. Feeney and N. L. Collins, “A New Look at Social Support: A Theoretical Perspective on Thriving Through Relationships,” Personality and Social Psychology Review 19, № 2 (May 2015): 113–147, doi.org/10.1177/1088868314544222.

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Ivan Boszormenyi-Nagy and Barbara Krasner, Between Give and Take: A Clinical Guide to Contextual Therapy (New York: Brunner/Mazel, 1986).

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См. главу 1.

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Нейротипичный – не страдающий расстройствами аутистического спектра.

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N. Fow, “Partner-Focused Reversal in Couple Therapy,” Psychotherapy: Theory, Research, Practice, Training 35, № 2 (1998): 231–237.

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S. Cohen et al, “Eye of the Beholder: The Individual and Dyadic Contributions of Empathic Accuracy and Perceived Empathic Effort to Relationship Satisfaction,” Journal of Family Psychology 26, № 2 (2012): 236–245, doi.org/10.1037/a0027488.

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Shirley Glass, Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity after Infidelity (New York: Atria Books, 2004).

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J. Gale and B. Muruthi, “Triangles and Triangulation in Family Systems Theory,” in Encyclopedia of Couple and Family Therapy, ed. J. Lebow, A. Chambers, and D. Breunlin (New York: Springer, 2017).

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E. Lisitsa, “An Introduction to Emotional Bids and Trust,” Gottman Institute, August 31, 2012, gottman.com/blog/an-introduction-to-emotional-bids-and-trust/.

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J. M. Gottman and J. DeClaire, The Relationship Cure: A Five-Step Guide for Building Better Connections with Family, Friends, and Lovers (New York: Crown Publishers, 2001).

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В русском варианте – сказка о маленькой девочке и трех медведях. Главная героиня заблудилась в лесу и случайно нашла домик, в котором было несколько предметов, отличавшихся друг от друга по определенным свойствам. Из них девочка выбрала для себя наиболее подходящие. Также существует понятие «зона Златовласки», обозначающее такое космическое пространство, в котором находятся планеты, по свойствам своей поверхности схожие с Землей и теоретически способные стать местом для зарождения жизни.

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S. Carrere and J. M. Gottman, “Predicting Divorce among Newlyweds from the First Three Minutes of a Marital Conflict Discussion,” Family Process 38, № 3 (1999): 293–301.

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J. Gottman, Why Marriages Succeed or Fail… and How You Can Make Yours Last (New York: Simon and Schuster, 1995).

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См. главу 6.

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N. C. Overall and J. K. McNulty, “What Type of Communication During Conflict Is Beneficial for Intimate Relationships?” Current Opinion in Psychology 13 (February 2017): 1–5, doi.org/10.1016/j.copsyc.2016.03.002.

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P. R. Giancola et al, “Applying the Attention-Allocation Model to the Explanation of Alcohol-Related Aggression: Implications for Prevention, Substance Use & Misuse 44, № 9–10 (2009): 1263–1279, doi.org/10.1080/10826080902960049.

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S. W. Porges, The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-Regulation (New York: W. W. Norton, 2011).

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F. D. Fincham, S. R. H. Beach, and J. Davila, “Forgiveness and Conflict Resolution in Marriage,” Journal of Family Psychology 18, № 1 (2004): 72–81, doi.org/10.1037/0893–3200.18.1.72.

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L. B. Luchies et al, “The Doormat Effect: When Forgiving Erodes Self-Respect and Self-Concept Clarity,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 98, № 5 (2010): 734–749, doi.org/10.1037/a0017838.

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См. главу 2.

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См. главу 7.

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William J. Doherty, The Intentional Family: Simple Rituals to Strengthen Family Ties (New York: Avon Books, 1997).

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K. J. Prager, The Psychology of Intimacy (New York: Guilford Press, 1995).

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S. L. Gable and H. T. Reis, “Good News! Capitalizing on Positive Events in an Interpersonal Context,” Advances in Experimental Social Psychology. Vol. 42 (2010): 195–257, doi.org/10.1016/s0065-2601(10)42004-3.

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A. Aron and E. N. Aron, “Self-Expansion Motivation and Including Other in the Self,” in Handbook of Personal Relationships: Theory, Research, and Interventions, 2nd ed., ed. S. Duck (Chichester, England: John Wiley & Sons, 1997), 251–270.

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См. главу 2.

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George E. Vaillant, Charles C. McArthur, and Arlie Bock, “Grant Study of Adult Development, 1938–2000,” Harvard Dataverse, 2010, doi.org/10.7910/DVN/48WRX9.

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Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning: An Introduction to Logotherapy (Boston: Beacon Press, 1962).

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E. E. Smith, The Power of Meaning: Crafting a Life That Matters (New York: Crown, 2017).

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“Warning Signs of Abuse,” National Domestic Violence Hotline, thehotline.org/identify-abuse/warning-signs-of-abuse/.

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См. главу 4.